Sex Matters

Sex matters by Osho

Not just another extraordinary book i've just finished reading..

Osho, the writer, defines sex in a very different way from most people view sex. Most people view sex as a taboo and talk about it uncomfortably. Osho says that sex should be accepted as a normal, natural thing in human life. Something that has very powerful energy that creates life itself.

Accept life as it is, in its naturalness , and live it in its totality. That very totality will lift you up day by day, step by step. That very acceptance will lift you to the heights where one day you will experience that which has no trace of sex in it. If sex is coal, one day the diamond of love will also manifest from it.

I love the idea that its sex that creates love.. and so does love create sex. They both work on a synergic system that we all human have it effortlessly. Like what Osho has said, love is within every human being. It doesn't have to be brought in from somewhere.. It is not something that has to be searched for somewhere. It is there. But unfortunately, it is trapped by high walls on all sides and it unable to manifest itself. In my comprehension after reading this book.. it's actually sex that helps people manifest love to the consciousness. When people can accept sex as a godliness energy and use it wisely, then they finally can find by themselves what and where the love is.

So how to manifest love with sex? Change our mind set that sex is a taboo thing. If we do, then we can be open to sex. ..To search what's the meaning of sex in our life. How we perceive our body and take good care of it? It means taking good care of something precious (as in our body is where the godliness energy of sex can manifest). So far, this thing I can tell.. when we can firstly perceive and take good care of our body, acording to how we use our sex energy wisely, then we can finally find LOVE in ourselves.

Attitude is Everything!

I just finished reading this book, Attitude is Everything by Keith Harrell. I got a reinforcement to change my attitude on some of my perspectives about life. Read the following summary of this book that I wrote, I guarantee that you're gonna get some insights like i did.

Your attitude today determines your success tomorrow!

Attitude is the foundation and support of everything we do, a key element in the process of controlling our destiny and achieving mastery in our personal and professional life.

Our attitude is often one of the first things people notice about us.

There are 10 life steps-changing steps to turning attitude into action:

Step 1 Understand The Power of Attitude

Tap into the power of our attitude.

Step 2 Choose to Take Charge of Our Life

Recognize that our choices today impact our success tomorrow. Taking charge and staying in control is an attitude of choice.

Step 3 Identify through Self Awareness the Attitudes that Hold Us Back or Propel our Forward

Haha.. Keller points out that there are three bad attitude baggages that everybody kinda own:

1. If-Only baggage (the one that has to do with the past)

2. What-now baggage (the one that relates on underpressure feeling about the present)

3. What-if baggage (the one that relates on worries about the future)

Those baggages have to be reframed (Step 4)

Step 4 Reframe Our Bad Attitude

how??

1. Change perspective

2. Determine the value of life experience

3. To feel gratitude and to give forgiveness

4. To love

Step 5 Find Our Purpose and Passion

Have a clear purpose and passion → create the vision, goals, and plans

Step 6 Be Pre-active

Mind set: It is important to be prepared, never give up, never quit, and know that you have ability to overcome anything (be positive!).

Step 7 Discover How to Motivate Yourself

Supply the energy and enthusiasm to keep us going.

To work well, we should have these five attributes:

1. Be uniquely ours

2. Be uplifting

3. Deal with what is going on at that moment

4. Paint a picture in our mind

5. Touch our heart

   Use our tool kit:

   1. Self-coaching through affirmations

   2. Self-motivation through discovering our motives

   3. The power of visualization

   4. Attitude talk for positive internal dialogue

   5. The power of words- WOW

   6. The power in a positive greeting

   7. Enthusiasm, a vital tool for staying motivated

   8. Connecting to your spiritual empowerment

   9. Lighten up your life with humor

   10. Exercising will keep you motivated

Step 8 Build Supportive Relationship

The people you allow to embrace your life ultimately have the greatest impact on your attitude.

Values for building A Team:

1. Integrity

2. Respect

3. Honesty

4. Accountability

5. Faith

6. Love

7. Health

8. Wisdom

9. Compassion

10. Achievement

11. Recognition

Step 9 See Change as an Opportunity

Develop a whatever-it-takes attitude.

There are 4 basic ways to respond to change:

1. Shift into neutral

2. Adopt a negative attitude

3. Adopt a counterproductive attitude

4. Adopt a positive attitude

Step 10 Leave a Lasting Legacy

Make a mark that cannot be erased!

-Not so- Light Meal for My Brain

I just finished reading this book called SIX THINKING HATS by Edward De Bono. I LOOOVEEE THIS BOOK. So inspiring!


Knowing that thinking is the ultimate human resource, i realize then how i have to optimize my thinking capasity. This book helps me find the best strategy to do that. So many inspiring thoughts are revealed in this book. Like this one, my favorite..

^The only people who are very satisfied with their thinking skill are those poor little thinkers who believe that the purpose of thinking is to prove yourself right -to their own satisfaction.^

Here are those wonderful six hats with its concern: (i rewrote it down with some key concepts, it helps to comprehend it easily)

WHITE HAT

neutral and objective.

is concerned with objective facts and figures.

• What information do we have?

• What information do we need?

• What information is missing?

• What questions do we need to ask?

• How we are going to get the information we need?

• Discussion, argument, consensus

• How true is a fact?

RED HAT

anger, rage and emotions.

gives emotional view.

• Can thinking change emotions?

• The emotional background.

• Emotions as bargainingg positions.

• Emotions, values, choices.

• Emotions do not have to be logical or consistent.

• Resist the temptation to justify emotions.

• Hunches, intuitions, impressions

• No need to give reasons or the basis

BLACK HAT

somer and serious.

is cautious and careful.

Points out the weakness in an idea.

• How something does not fit our experience.

• Why something may not work.

• Pointing out difficulties and problems.

• Staying within the law.

• Keeping the values and ethics.

• Point out errors in thinking

• Is it the only possible conclusion?

YELLOW HAT

sunny and positive.

Is optimistic and covers hope and positive thinking.

• Positive thinking

• Yellow is for sunshine and brightness

• Optimism

• Focus on benefit

• Constructive thinking and making things happen

• From the hopeful to the logical.

• What is realism?

• Background reasons for the optimism.

• Proposal and suggestions

GREEN HAT

is grass, vegetation, and abundant, fertile growth

indicates creativity and new ideas.

• New ideas, new concepts, and new perceptions

• The deliberate creation of new ideas

• Alternatives and more alternatives

• Change

• New approaches to problem

• Random provocation

• Pride in the exercise of a skill

• Shaping and tailoring ideas

BLUE HAT

is cool

is concerned with control, the organization of the thinking process, and the use of the other hats.

• Thinking about thinking

• Instructions for thinking

• Asking the rigtht questions

• Defining the problem

• Setting the thinking tasks

• Choreography

• Observation and overview

Result for applying Six Hats Thinking Method:

1. Power (intelligence, experience, knowledge)

2. Time Saving

3. Removal of ego

4. One thing at a time

Are you considering it too??

*PING*

Travel a short search for a new pond.
a book written by Stuart Avery Gold

This book is about an inspirational frog, Ping, swimming in the search for a new pond. Ping loves to jump and always tries to approach his latest record of jumping every day. One day, in the pond he used to swim, he finds dry period which makes him can't jump again. He decides then to travel exploring new pond he feels most suitable to do the long distance jump and create new record. In his journey, he meets The Owl, teacher full of wisdom and insight. The Owl teaches Ping to take a spiritual journey before deciding to pursue his objective.

Each figure and character in this story, describes people in the business for achieving their goals. There are people who are in a position such as Ping and wise position as The Owl. Ping describes any people who face setbacks, require to take the risk, and struggle against the current challenges of change. The Owl describes any people who are knowledgeable and wise who have more experience about the dynamics of life and share their experience to other people who are in the business to reach goals of their life. In this story, they walk together. Accompanied by The Owl, Ping finds many things in this world that makes him learning about life. Only with the bravery and readiness to take risks, Ping can learn.

:: Special thanks to Tante Ratih Ibrahim who gave me this wonderful book::